Dress Code for Wedding Guests (2024)

Dress Code for Wedding Guests (1)

Earlier today I received a call from someone who was attending a wedding as a guest on the weekend. The dilemma – what to wear? He ummed and aahed about a suit with or without a waistcoat, or just chinos and a shirt, and then he asked about wearing a tie that matched the wedding’s colour scheme. This is the advice I gave him, and it’s relevant to anyone unsure as to what to wear as a guest to a wedding.

1. It’s better to be overdressed than under-dressed

This is probably the key to dressing for a wedding, and for probably any event really. It’s rare that you’d go to a wedding and say someone is too smart, but if you’re sloppily dressed you’re certainly going to stand out, and not for the right reasons.

Here’s the thing: You can remove a tie, or a jacket. But once you’re in jeans and a band tour t-shirt and everyone else is dressed to the nines, you’re just going to look a tad out of place. The only exception might be a tuxedo – save that for when it’s actually required (and it would be on the invitation if it was!).

That said, check the wedding invite for a dress code. Some will have one, others won’t. If you’re unsure, ask the bride or groom. Which leads me onto tip number 2…

2. “Wear anything you want” does not mean wear ANYTHING you want

It happens all the time. You ask the bride (or usually the groom) what the dress code is for their wedding, and their response is: “whatever you want, we're just happy you're coming”.

It is never “pretty casual”. Even if it is. I’ve been to weddings where guests wore jeans and shorts because they had been told there wasn’t a dress code. And then the bride is wondering why no-one’s made any effort for her wedding! Go back to my first point – dress up. You really can’t go wrong. The worst that can happen is people tell you how great you look.

3. The wedding colours are for the wedding party, not guests

The final point is about the wedding’s colour scheme. Some guests want to wear items that relate to the colours the bride has chosen, but there’s a problem with that. The colour scheme, when it comes to what to wear, is designed for the bridal party i.e. the groom, groomsmen, bridesmaids, pageboys etc. Unless you’re in that bridal party, you’d be best to steer clear of trying to match them.

Think of it a bit like a stage show. The actors, in this case the bridal party, all wear the same colour to identify themselves as being in the cast. They’re the ones putting on the show. You’re there to watch the show. Get it? It’s a bit like the rule that women shouldn’t wear white to a wedding, although this isn’t nearly as bad as that!

There are of course exceptions to this – occasionally the invite will mention the colour scheme as part of the dress code, or the bride will specifically ask you to wear a royal blue tie. But there's absolutely nothing wrong with picking a tie to match your plus 1 and we've helped lots of people find the right shade with our colour matching service! Again, if in doubt, ask. But remember tip number 2…

So there you have my 3 top tips for what to wear, or not, to a wedding. Normal fashion sense still applies of course, and there are plenty of style sites that can help you find the right shoes or how to fit a jacket properly. Just don’t stress too much about it, no-one’s paying too much attention to you. After all, the star of the show is a lady in white…

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Dress Code for Wedding Guests (2024)

FAQs

What is the dress code for a wedding guest? ›

1) Do Consider the Wedding Dress Code

Black Tie: floor length gowns, black ties, tuxedos. Formal: floor length gowns, tuxedos optional, black suits acceptable. Semi-Formal: below the knee dresses, dress shirts, slacks. Casual: sundresses, collared shirts, khakis.

What can I wear to a wedding as a guest? ›

Women should embrace wrap dresses, midi dresses or elegant jumpsuits. For men, if it's a daytime wedding, a light sport jacket, button-down shirt and relaxed chinos fit the bill. In the evening, go for darker colors, as later weddings tend to be more formal.

How do you know what dress code to wear to a wedding? ›

Here are some samples of how to disclose your wedding dress code on your invitation.
  1. White Tie. White Tie Celebration: Please join us in your most royal formalwear.
  2. Black Tie. A Formal Affair: Our venue requires Black Tie attire.
  3. Black Tie Optional. ...
  4. Creative Black Tie. ...
  5. co*cktail. ...
  6. Semi Formal. ...
  7. Festive Attire. ...
  8. Garden Party.

How do you write a dress code on an invitation? ›

Traditional wording like “Black Tie” or “co*cktail Attire” is common, or you can get creative with phrases like “Dress to Impress” or “Beach Chic.” Decide where to include the dress code information: The dress code information can be included on the main invitation, on a separate insert, or on your wedding website.

What is not appropriate to wear as a wedding guest? ›

Lean towards dressing up, even for "casual" weddings.

Even if the wedding has a more low-key dress code, I promise you: It is not that casual. Meaning, stay away from sweats, shorts, jeans, T-shirts.

What to wear to a wedding after party as a guest? ›

Semi-Formal Attire

For a semi-formal affair, think classic and sophisticated. Whether it's a knee-length dress or a sleek jumpsuit, semi-formal attire is all about looking polished and put together. Feel free to wear your dancing shoes and grace the dance floor with style!

How to tell guests their dress code? ›

Put It on the Invitation

The simplest way to tell your guests what they're expected to wear is to put a dress code in the invitation. There is a time-honored glossary of dress-code wording short enough to include on invitations, or on a card inserted with the invitation.

What is the most popular wedding dress code? ›

Between "black-tie optional" and "semi-formal," the language can be tricky to decipher. "While many couples would like their guests to arrive in black-tie attire, the most common wedding dress code is formal attire," says Alicia Mae, CEO of the New Jersey-based wedding planning company ILÈ Events.

How do you answer what is the dress code for a wedding? ›

3. What should I wear?
  • “The wedding is casual, so please feel free to wear whatever you'd feel best in!”
  • “The wedding is semi-formal, so we encourage you to wear co*cktail attire [for evening events] / Sunday best [for daytime events].”
  • “The wedding is formal, so we encourage you to wear black tie attire.
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What is an example of an appropriate dress code? ›

Business casual is the most common dress code in American workplaces, and it can vary based on each workplace. Men typically wear dress pants or khaki pants with collared button-up shirts, and they may also wear a sweater over this shirt. Women can wear business separates and blouses or shirts without collars.

How do you write a dress code rule? ›

Policy Elements
  1. All employees must be clean and well-groomed. ...
  2. All clothes must be work-appropriate. ...
  3. All clothes must project professionalism. ...
  4. All clothes must be clean and in good shape. ...
  5. Employees must avoid clothes with stamps that are offensive or inappropriate.

What is dress code etiquette? ›

All clothing should be clean, ironed and in good shape. Refrain from wearing clothes that have tears, rips or holes, even if it is the current fashion. All employees should maintain an acceptable level of bodily hygiene to ensure that interactions with other staff and clients remain positive and pleasant.

What is the default dress code for a wedding? ›

co*cktail attire is a typical wedding dress code choice because it offers a balance between formality and comfort. Perfect for an afternoon wedding and evening reception, the co*cktail wedding dress code indicates a semi-formal-to-formal event.

What should a female guest wear to a casual wedding? ›

"When it says casual, men could show up in pants and a blazer with no tie—or maybe not a jacket at all—but just a nice shirt and a pair of slacks. Women can wear a nice sundress or dress, a jumpsuit or even a two-piece set," says Julie Sabatino, bridal stylist and founder of The Stylish Bride.

What clothing etiquette for wedding? ›

A wedding ceremony is a serious occasion, so you should always dress respectfully: Skip anything too casual (no jeans), too bridal (no formal, white gowns), or too short. "I think a micro mini dress is always too short when it comes to a wedding," says Hurwitz.

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